|Dating Guidelines for Single Parents
As a single parent, you probably have so little free time that dating seems an impossible task. Yet, single parents are dating in unprecedented numbers, so if you’re looking for another head of household to date, you’ll find one.
As a responsible parent, you’ll want to be very cautious about whom you date and eventually bring home for the safety and well-being of your child(ren). You may feel guilty or unsure about whether dating is OK. Of course it is, as long as you do it responsibly, and your children are not disrupted by your dating.
Single parent dating involves finding a quality person you like, who likes you, and who is comfortable with your children. These extra dynamics can be frustrating, but should not be ignored or overlooked. Pressuring your children to like your date and going too fast for them to get comfortable with the situation, will create unnecessary trouble. This article presents some guidelines to help you, your children and your new date be more comfortable, and assure that things go smoothly.
If your children are small, they have a right to be primary in your life. They should not have to compete with your new relationship for your time, attention and affection. This takes planning, because your schedule is already full.
Safety/ Sensibility Issues
Meeting other single parents at PTA, church, and school or sports events is a great, non-threatening way to begin. The public setting provides safety, a chance to get to know the other person, and to find out what others think of him or her. Meeting his or her children or other family members will quickly reveal their values and attitudes. When your children meet another parent, an adult friend, or a church or temple member rather than a date, it’s much less threatening to them. There is less pressure on everyone.
Rules for Everyone
Setting and keeping rules may sound like a drag, but sensible and reasonable guidelines can help a lot. When everyone knows what is expected of them, they will feel respected and secure.
Parental Dating Guidelines
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